Note to Self: Dancing Tips
note to self, how to dance, remember this everytime you ask a girl out to dance. Dont come back alone with a sorry face and write this article again.
If a girl doesnt want to dance, she wont, she will give a million small excuses ranging from I dont like this song, music is bad (unless its really bad, in which case shame on you for asking), just got here, let me finish this drink(rather need a lot more of these to dance with you), and the plain NO (the best oral contraceptive). If she agrees to dance, she wants to dance, unless she has been peer pressured into dancing with you have her for a couple of songs so plan accordingly. Now now dont whip out your pcket pc with pocket project, there is no planning in dancing, you dont plot the points of a dance, its all about the music and the heart. Soemthing without plot points, something that has a beginning and an ending but what happens in between is something that cannot be plotted. But there are some general guidelines.
Scope out the space, thats a big thing. Mark your territory or area in which you can dance, especially in a crowded dance floor. You must know how much space you need for your steps and where the space pockets are. The worst thing is to run out of space, bump people etc remember its the guy who has to keep his eyes out for his girl, she shoudnt bump, trip or run into anything (unless on purpose, thats evil). The girl when dancing should be able to close her eyes and dance, she is placing her trust in you, implicitly, dont lose it.
Dont rush it, lets do the triple toss followed by the whirl, dont try to get into the complicated steps on the first turn, give it some time to develop, do some very simple stuff with her first. Its like exercise, warm up and strecthing is essential. Just feel her out, what cues she responds to, how much pressure you need to apply, how quickly or slowly does she turn, how does she read your body movements, what are her responses. Dancing for a guy is a lot about leading, every girl responds differently to the same lead, learning that is an essential part of dancing, its extremly critical before you launch off into complicated steps. Just walk for a few (tango), basic in and out turns (swing), feel each other out. Some girls atomatically go for a triple turn, some know the steps, some dont, some need more pressure, some are as light as a feather. Find out where your partner is and adjust accordingly. Dancing is not about how many turns you did, but did you look good together, were you both comfortable doing it. Get her response to your pressure, her response to your cues and her step. The girl is like a flower, dont step on her petals, dont move her so, that her dress cant handle the move, learn her before you play her.
Dont invade per private space (atleast not immediately heheheh), let it develop, its like a butterfly, you need to coax her out of her cocoon, she will come, she will, but give her some time. dont dance too close, nor too apart, bring her close and test where she is most comfortable, your next song depends on that. Unless its an act of desperation, for the last song of the night, remember there is the rest of the night, and there is more than her first touch she has to offer.
Talk to her, yes talk to her this is very very important. You are there to have fun and to know each other a little bit more. She wants good feedback, she likes compliments, she like a little joke, she likes a careless whisper and she likes a smile on your face to show that you are having fun too. And for gods sake, look at her when she is dancing, be her audience, your looks says a lot, it shows you appreciate her, you are not dancing for anybody else, its just the two of you for each other. Whisper sweet nothings in her ear, give a kiss on the hand once in a while, and add a wink before a simple step, tell her a joke. Offcourse this comes with a warning, dont be mr chatterbox, after all when the bodies communicate what need is there to talk.
Sometimes high energy is good, but remember dont tire her out. Follow the music. Handle her gently, she is a flower, dont push too hard, dont grab her, well you can grab her, you should, but not that grab. Dont come and tell me I treated her as a flower, and this guy broke her off and took her with him, she is still not a flower in a case, ruffle the petals, smell the fragrance, bee like the bee that touches her everywhere and show your intention that you want the nectar within, or she aint giving it to you.
Dont ever point out mistakes, there are no mistakes in dancing, not like life. A mistake in dancing is just another way of doing something, recover, recover well, untangle and move on. There are no rules for dancing, so you cant break any. There is no rule book that says you have to do step A followed by step 2 and then dip. If you tango on and get tangled up, keep tangoing, you will untangle.
The guy has to essentially do three things, follow the music, remember the steps and give the right lead. He also has to plan his moves. And most important make her look good.
Dont look elsewhere while dancing, dont oogle at the next couple, dont scout for other girls, dont stare at the red dress at the other corner. Girls know and that doesnt usually bode well, grab her attention from doing the same and keep it.
Dont apologize for poor dancing, learn, if you know just a couple of moves mix them up well.
Feel the music, let it sink in, the dance steps will come automatically after that. Dont force the issue there, it wont look good. Each song tells you what can be danced to it.
Most important of all, dance with your heart, dance because you want to, dance because you like who you are dancing with, dance because dancing is a horizonal expression of a vertical intention, dance because there is no better way to know a person, dance because its fun, dance because love is in the air, dance because its sexy, dance because dance is like foreplay, dance because it can be danced and more important dance as if no one is watching.
If a girl doesnt want to dance, she wont, she will give a million small excuses ranging from I dont like this song, music is bad (unless its really bad, in which case shame on you for asking), just got here, let me finish this drink(rather need a lot more of these to dance with you), and the plain NO (the best oral contraceptive). If she agrees to dance, she wants to dance, unless she has been peer pressured into dancing with you have her for a couple of songs so plan accordingly. Now now dont whip out your pcket pc with pocket project, there is no planning in dancing, you dont plot the points of a dance, its all about the music and the heart. Soemthing without plot points, something that has a beginning and an ending but what happens in between is something that cannot be plotted. But there are some general guidelines.
Scope out the space, thats a big thing. Mark your territory or area in which you can dance, especially in a crowded dance floor. You must know how much space you need for your steps and where the space pockets are. The worst thing is to run out of space, bump people etc remember its the guy who has to keep his eyes out for his girl, she shoudnt bump, trip or run into anything (unless on purpose, thats evil). The girl when dancing should be able to close her eyes and dance, she is placing her trust in you, implicitly, dont lose it.
Dont rush it, lets do the triple toss followed by the whirl, dont try to get into the complicated steps on the first turn, give it some time to develop, do some very simple stuff with her first. Its like exercise, warm up and strecthing is essential. Just feel her out, what cues she responds to, how much pressure you need to apply, how quickly or slowly does she turn, how does she read your body movements, what are her responses. Dancing for a guy is a lot about leading, every girl responds differently to the same lead, learning that is an essential part of dancing, its extremly critical before you launch off into complicated steps. Just walk for a few (tango), basic in and out turns (swing), feel each other out. Some girls atomatically go for a triple turn, some know the steps, some dont, some need more pressure, some are as light as a feather. Find out where your partner is and adjust accordingly. Dancing is not about how many turns you did, but did you look good together, were you both comfortable doing it. Get her response to your pressure, her response to your cues and her step. The girl is like a flower, dont step on her petals, dont move her so, that her dress cant handle the move, learn her before you play her.
Dont invade per private space (atleast not immediately heheheh), let it develop, its like a butterfly, you need to coax her out of her cocoon, she will come, she will, but give her some time. dont dance too close, nor too apart, bring her close and test where she is most comfortable, your next song depends on that. Unless its an act of desperation, for the last song of the night, remember there is the rest of the night, and there is more than her first touch she has to offer.
Talk to her, yes talk to her this is very very important. You are there to have fun and to know each other a little bit more. She wants good feedback, she likes compliments, she like a little joke, she likes a careless whisper and she likes a smile on your face to show that you are having fun too. And for gods sake, look at her when she is dancing, be her audience, your looks says a lot, it shows you appreciate her, you are not dancing for anybody else, its just the two of you for each other. Whisper sweet nothings in her ear, give a kiss on the hand once in a while, and add a wink before a simple step, tell her a joke. Offcourse this comes with a warning, dont be mr chatterbox, after all when the bodies communicate what need is there to talk.
Sometimes high energy is good, but remember dont tire her out. Follow the music. Handle her gently, she is a flower, dont push too hard, dont grab her, well you can grab her, you should, but not that grab. Dont come and tell me I treated her as a flower, and this guy broke her off and took her with him, she is still not a flower in a case, ruffle the petals, smell the fragrance, bee like the bee that touches her everywhere and show your intention that you want the nectar within, or she aint giving it to you.
Dont ever point out mistakes, there are no mistakes in dancing, not like life. A mistake in dancing is just another way of doing something, recover, recover well, untangle and move on. There are no rules for dancing, so you cant break any. There is no rule book that says you have to do step A followed by step 2 and then dip. If you tango on and get tangled up, keep tangoing, you will untangle.
The guy has to essentially do three things, follow the music, remember the steps and give the right lead. He also has to plan his moves. And most important make her look good.
Dont look elsewhere while dancing, dont oogle at the next couple, dont scout for other girls, dont stare at the red dress at the other corner. Girls know and that doesnt usually bode well, grab her attention from doing the same and keep it.
Dont apologize for poor dancing, learn, if you know just a couple of moves mix them up well.
Feel the music, let it sink in, the dance steps will come automatically after that. Dont force the issue there, it wont look good. Each song tells you what can be danced to it.
Most important of all, dance with your heart, dance because you want to, dance because you like who you are dancing with, dance because dancing is a horizonal expression of a vertical intention, dance because there is no better way to know a person, dance because its fun, dance because love is in the air, dance because its sexy, dance because dance is like foreplay, dance because it can be danced and more important dance as if no one is watching.
posted by adarsh adarsh at 11:16 PM
2 Comments:
"...horizonal expression of a vertical intention." You may want to switch the words horizontal an d vertical, since dancing is done vertically and sexual play is usually horizontal.
good stuff adarsh!! way to go man!!! really neat...
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